Recently, I listened to the book, The Power of Doing Something Stupid, by Richie and Natalie Norton. It was about not taking our dreams so seriously that we are paralyzed. Its important to follow my dream even if others think it’s stupid. I have spent too many years talking about building a website for the LGBT community. Yes, its stupid. Why? Because, I am extremely shy. I have a horrible time introducing myself to strangers. I have been out only for 6 years. I am not the who’s who to know what’s what. I would rather watch a conversation than start one. Many times I have done stupid things to get a laugh or a smile, so maybe its time to re-frame my project. If it fails, I will have completed that mission and will be able to move on to something else. If it flies, I would help to create a stronger more connected community. Show the intelligence, beauty and strength of lesbian, gay, bi-sexual and transgendered individuals. It is my desire to create a platform where we can create a place of reflection that we are whole, complete and powerful today. This is how we live our lives as if the change in human equality has arrived for all.
When I came out, few were surprised. Well, with the exception of the straight woman who turned my world upside down. Even so, years later we both survived. Coming out, was seeing the world in a way I never had. The things that I noticed newly, were old hat to my friends and queer community. So, that is why this project may not be so crazy. My interest and curiosity can create a resource for people new to the area, newly out or desiring to reconnect. If these early posts sound stupid, than I have done my job. They are stupid on behalf of a bigger why not. As I write daily, the project will grow and mature into resource for a stronger and more accessible community.
It is an incredible challenge to unify a group of people that wouldn’t normally mix. The only commonality is that we are different in our sexual orientation and identification than the majority population. As human nature, we tend to look for what separates us from each other. It is not uncommon that I have felt more connection from allied family and friends. As we are to move forward, we can learn to share our joys and victories. Gather information and resources as our world moves forward. We need to start looking for what we have in common, than how we are better than each other.